high vs poor EQ

if you really loves a person, will you raise ur voice and scold each other
ok, maybe there are times when emotion took over and you start to go berserk
but is this the truthful way
and when argument or even just disagreement can lead you to utter 'break up'

i truly understand what they say by high 'EQ' and poor 'EQ'
highly EQ ppl, will know how to control their temper and behaviour
ok, there are no saint, maybe a couple of times they flip...but they will always come
back to senses and maintain the positive chi
highly EQ people will get better opportunities, better social friends, well juggle better at work too...

now...poor EQ people, tend to let their emotion get them...and not their logical brain
sometimes i wonder do they have a brain cell at all....
maybe poor EQ people are bad thinker as well....
they can't seem to think straight and they think they are genius than the rest ....
can't have a debate with them ..as they cant control their emotion
can't have any discussion too...they are govern by their emotion...

i wonder is there any self - help book to help us find a way to talk to them ...
without blowing their own anger ...
on second thought, maybe they don't have any these books ....
probably is a waste of time to mingle with these kind qualities human....